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Moving in with Your Significant Other

Moving in with your significant other is a big step in a relationship. It means that when you get in a fight you no longer have your own place to go back to to cool off, and you are going to have to get used to the way they run things in their lives, and there is going to be a lot of compromise. Compromise is one of the biggest factors when it comes to anything involving a significant other, and moving in together is no exception to that. There will be things about them that will drive you crazy, and things you do are bound to drive them up a wall. But at the end of the day, if you really love the person you can get past all of that.

One of the first decisions that you will have to make once it comes time to move in together is whether or not you are moving to their place, they are moving to yours, or if you will be getting a new place together. This decision directly affects the rest of the move. If one of you is moving in with the other one, there will likely be a large amount of purging of belongings. If you choose to get a new place together, then there will likely be purging by both parties. If you are moving into a one bedroom apartment, having two full bed sets just isn’t possible, and this is where the compromise will ensue. Not to mention all of the random stuff that people bring with them. Do you keep your book collection that you’ve been building up for years, or do you get rid of it so there is more room for things that are mutually wanted? There is a lot that goes into moving in with someone and sharing a space with them 24/7.

Once you get over the hump of getting moved in with the person, that is when the annoying habits start to become excruciatingly annoying. Do you like everything off of the counter and in the medicine cabinet, but your partner likes everything on the counter? Do they always leave their clothes lying around and leave dirty dishes out to grow colonies of nastiness? Do they snore? These are all things that you are going to come face to face with, and how you deal with it says a lot about the strength of your relationship. Old habits die hard, so yelling at the person when they do something you don’t like typically isn’t the way to do it. Friendly reminders about things that they do that you don’t appreciate, and being open to the things that they don’t like about you, are important in maintaining the peace. Bullying is never a way to get stuff done, because it’s easier to catch flies with honey than vinegar.

Moving to Birmingham should be an exciting time, and the same goes for moving in with your partner. Try to keep calm and enjoy the moment.